I talked about this topic on my radio show and I thought it was really interesting so I wanted to share it, and my thoughts, with you.
In Sweden, the government passed a law to change its grammar, meaning, they have added a third, completely neutral form of pronoun. So, instead of having just the usual he and she, there is a third pronoun for those who do not want to be classified according to their gender. And not only did they decide on this, they also passed a law that states that schools can no longer give a ‘gender’ to toys, meaning, there will be no more of the, far too usual, ‘this is for girls, this is for boys’ nonsense. Not only is this limited to schools, but it is the entire Swedish society that behaves according. In fact, even the color of baby clothing is neutral… no pink for girls, blue for boys.
Sweden is fighting to eradicate gender discrimination and create a society in which gender doesn’t matter.
Personally, I think this is a great idea. A refreshing idea.
So if a boy wants to play with a doll and dance, he will be free to do. If a girl wants to kick a ball and climb a tree, no one will say anything to her to make her feel uncomfortable.
The conditioning begins at such a young age and it creates so many problems. If a child can at least be himself or herself at home and at school, it will give her or him so much more confidence when he or she goes out into the world.
I, myself, was a pure tomboy. I never liked dolls much. Barbie gave me the creeps. I much preferred climbing trees or playing sports. I used to climb on top of the garage, and then have someone call my Mother so she could watch me jump down. She encouraged me and told me I could do anything the boys did. None of this ever made me doubt my femininity.
I have some girlfriends in India who have never played any sports in their entire lives and some girlfriends in Italy who were not even allowed to run when they were young. Can you immagine? One of greatest joys of being young is to play wildly and run like the wind. I also have male friends in the United States who dreamed of cooking but weren’t allowed into the kitchen when they were young boys because that was a ‘place for girls’.
We create our own misery. And it begins the day we are born.
In Sweden they are certainly breaking boundaries. It’s no wonder that almost ever year it is voted the best place for mothers and children to live.
In our own little worlds, let’s try to stop any form of conditioning that is forced upon us or on those close to us, be it gender, cultural, social, religious, or sexual preference.