Monday, July 13, 2015

Expect the Unexpected 2

Eliminating expectations: As is everything in this Path we have chosen, it is difficult and simple at the same time. It has nothing to do with 'reaching a certain level of understanding' although at times, the metaphor of climbing to the top of a mountain does seem adequate. This is what I have come to understand. Every time you feel disappointed, totally eliminate what you perceive to be the outer cause of your disappointment and then look at the disappointment itself, caused only by you and you alone. Then separate it from yourself, analyse it, and then meditate deeply on it. It might take days, months, or even years but when you do see it clearly, it will pleasantly surprise you. It doesn’t mean that the little spark of false joyous expectation will never rise up again, it’s just that the next time, you’ll recognise it, and you’ll stop it in its tracks. And we should be careful not to create situations that increase the expectation of something. We are given as much as we need. If we unnecessarily ask for more than we need, we will be disappointed. At that point, admit it and try to move on as gracefully and as quickly as possible. One shouldn't try to squeeze blood from a stone. When moments of expectation do arise in me, I stop them with a laugh, and then I say out loud to whatever god-form inside of me is closest to the situation at hand, “Hey, whatever happens, I’m cool. I can handle it and I know that whatever the outcome, it’s the best thing for me. I promise I will act accordingly and not be bull-headed. I will listen and be fearless. Anything You hand out will be appreciated.” 

Slowly but surely, a transformation takes places. 
In my case, on the one hand, I got so tired of feeling disappointed and on the other hand, I knew in my heart that it was always my fault for feeling that way. This realisation actually gave me hope, because I accepted that it was in my hands. Personally, I find that comforting. More than comforting, I find that to be the greatest gift the Universe has bestowed upon me. My life, my feelings, my mind…everything is in my own hands. How cool is that? I mean, who wants to be a puppet for their entire life? Depending on others to make us feel a certain way….exhausting.